Saturday, February 07, 2009

maybe redemption has stories to tell

Self-pity is a really dangerous thing to fall into. We feel sorry for ourselves in a lot of circumstances. I'm not diminishing the fact that we may be victims in situations, but face it. Self-pity is not going to make it any better. In fact, it makes it worse.

What poison is to food, self-pity is to life.
-Oliver C. Wilson

Yes, life is unfair. So, what's new? It's life, and wallowing in self-pity doesn't help. It narrows our thinking, and makes bad situations look worse. Sometimes, we don't really have the whole picture but start being sorry for ourselves which deepens that misunderstanding.

Walking with Christ can warrant a lot of self-pity times. We sometimes get treated like crap by people whom we keep trying to be nice to. Jesus Himself was in many such situations. But He did not feel sorry for Himself, He focused on that greater purpose. No, we're not perfect, but we all gotta start somewhere.

There is only one way to end a self-pity cycle: stop comparing yourself to others, and simply follow Christ.
-Linda Harry


Everyone goes through it. We are not alone. Our greatest example led the way, we can only follow. And here's a painful truth, sometimes we ourselves are the problem. We keep blaming and pointing fingers not realising we are our own source of pain. Dag Hammarskjold put it best and I quote,

Is life so wretched? Isn't it rather your hands which are too small, your vision which is muddled? You are the one who must grow up.

Enough said?

I hope so. I really do.

1 comment:

ç£@Réñ©€ said...

Yeah.. Self-pity is something I do lots too. Gotta stop doing that..

And I agree with one of the quotes: "Comparing yourself with others does not stop self-pitying". Often in life we encounter so many people who are way better than us and we feel "small". But that should not stop us from realising our own strengths which also can be very hard to find. Heck, it took me 15 years to find one of my great strengths --> art. But yeah, after 15 years of not doing art one has to brush up a lot, and I'm not doing it. LOL

Okay, enough crap from me XD. Just move on and believe that you're special. Because Jesus knows you're SPECIAL! :D